4 Easy Steps from Self-Doubt To Roaring Confidence

IMG_8104What a month July has been!  I cannot believe how quickly this summer is going and we are already at the doors of the new school year…  During this summer, something strange showed up into my life and I want to share my battle tools with you to vanquish it.  It’s self-doubt.  My self-confidence took a hit…

Anyone else has those moments where they feel they are unsure of literally every single decision they are making?  Argh!  What a drag!  

It seems like every time there is a chance for me to decide on something, (yes, even which side should I smear the peanut butter to make a pb&j sandwich!) I would freeze and I have to think about the myriad ways to deal with it.  Can I get an AMEN?!

So I started thinking about it a bit to dig deeper because this was impacting all aspects of my life.  I needed to get practical tools to vanquish “the feeling” and start doing something about it regardless of its difficulty.

Can you imagine physically tearing yourself out of a space to get off your bottom and kill the self-doubt monster, armor on and all?  That thing can envelop you and stick to you like some sort of double skin!

There is HELP!  So I dragged my wounded, self-pitying butt to the nearest “confidence-building shop” and here is what I picked up and practiced: (ps: click on the links for great resources!)IMG_7780

  • Read a book!  I am a books-on-tape/mp3-downloading type of person (but sometimes I need a  paperback).  So I grabbed a couple of those uplifting books! I found that they pep-talk my deflated self into getting filled with confidence and a better sense of worth.   The two I really enjoyed were 28,000 Days Make Yours Count by Kara Vaval-Ferrier and The 5 Second Rule by Mel Robbins. You will LOVE them and will get your engines so fired up!  PLUS, when you sign up for the MeUnfinished.com newsletter, I will let you know how you can get a 20% discount on 28,000 Days for a limited time (click here to access the site)!
  • Use affirmations.  I am one of those skeptical ones who said that this crazy method would never work.  To me, it seemed pointless and I would even subconsciously sabotage my success by forgetting to say them.  But once I included saying my affirmations in my daily morning routine, they became a powerful set of arms I use to crush self-doubt.  If during the day the nasty thoughts start creeping in again (and they will!!!), I pull out my affirmations and focus on one that will activate my brain power to redirect my thoughts.  I have a set right here to get you started.  Click on the link, print and try it!  Can’t wait to hear about how your results! Let your confidence soar!
  • Pray.  This is a powerful form of sharpening the mind.  Once I get into my prayer mode, I tap into the truths about myself: I am perfectly made and I matter.  I have talents that nobody else has and I have a purpose.  When self-doubt tries to invade my head, I know to recognize it and start my prayers right away.  Here is a page I found to be helpful when the tormenting self-doubt starts.  This goes hand in hand with the affirmations we just spoke about.  Everything in the affirmations is the truth about you; so the prayers, well, affirm your affirmations (LOL!  Get it?) and boost your confidence.
  • Move!  Believe me, there is some serious magical power in a walk/run/dance/etc.  Now, I don’t know your physical condition; but whatever you are able to do to get your blood flowing and your juices pumping, DO IT!  Scientifically speaking,  when you exercise (no matter how low the pace), you release all kinds of feel-good hormones that go and attack the not-feeling-so-good trying to take your mind and body down.  Wanna hear about another “side-effect” of exercising besides boosting your confidence?  You start losing unwanted weight, get your health in check, and ON TOP OF IT your appearance benefits!

Ok, so you are now on your way!  Although I can understand that getting started is difficult in itself, I know you can take little steps at a time to begin the journey of gaining self-confidence.  Here’s one more little nugget to help with your first step. Buh-Bye self-doubt, Hello Confidence!

Let me know how it goes!  

Keep the Faith alive,

M

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42 Responses to “4 Easy Steps from Self-Doubt To Roaring Confidence”

  1. I love the suggestions you’ve made in this post! Finding confidence it a never ending struggle with me, so I’m glad you covered such an important topic! Keep it up!

    • Thank you Ressa! Self-doubt is a lot more common than it lends itself… the good news is that we have plenty of weapons against it to vanquish it!

  2. Very good tips….I guess for praying….one can pray what hr believes in …. I pray to the universe usually 🙂

  3. Self doubt is such an awful thing and it always seems to catch me unawares. Just like you I didn’t really believe in the power of self affirmation, but thinking about it; if we put ourselves in a state of self doubt by continually thinking we’re not good enough, then the opposite must also be true

  4. Self-doubt is something I struggle with daily. It’s wonderful how we’re able to to pick ourselves back up again.

    • I am sorry to hear that self-doubt is something you struggle with all the time, Kelley… However, as you said, we can surely pick ourselves back up and move forward! 🙂

  5. Such an interesting and informative read! I wish I had read something like this when I was much younger – I think it would have helped because I always had self doubt. But you’re right, hard part is actually starting. Once you stick with it and keep it up – it does get easier!

    • Thank you Jin. It is never too late to start doing well! It took me years to start cultivating the tips mentioned here and I am not exactly 20! (lol)

  6. Praying is my life jacket! Anytime I feel completely overwhelmed,doubting my parenting or wife duties… I pray and the stress of life lifts! It really is the best thing that helps me.

  7. Really great tips. I feel like I only pray when I’m in trouble – so I’m definitely working on that!

  8. These are great suggestions & I’m glad you find a combination that works for you & is helpful for others. I like using affirmations too. I have a vision board on Pinterest that has affirmations on it. I’ve gotten in a habit lately of looking at my vision board daily (in the mornings) & reading the affirmations either aloud or to myself. I also find that using oils, crystals, & meditation works for me as well. 🙂

  9. Self doubt is something that comes and goes … it is a constant loop. Books and meditation usually helps me.

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  10. Such a great tips! I have faith in God but i dont usually pray. I should pray and attend mass more.

  11. Super Tips!! I am so guilty of allowing self doubt to creep in but tips like these help me keep it away. Walking and simply getting out of my normal surroundings is a great solution!

  12. I enjoyed reading the points you listed. Confidence is always a work in progress for most but with regular practice and time it can improve.

  13. Love these affirmations! It’s something I’ve heard of, but like you, found it kind of strange. I might have to actually start trying this tho…

  14. Sometimes I wish there’s a button I can help to push for friends around me who have serious case of self-doubting. I see so much potential in them yet they are holding themselves back with their own doubts!

  15. Really great post. Through out my life I have suffered with self-confidence with varies things one thing being really tall and one day I told myself, you are different and it is great.

  16. I need to start reading again and make a habit of it. You are absolutely right, you just have to get up and move. Literally physically get up. Walking and running and working out don’t just stimulate your body and get your body into shape but it also gets here mind running as well. It encourages you to do more. “What else can I get done today”. Life is messy and we make bad decisions all the time. By focusing on how we are not perfect will not make us more perfect but will only discourage us. Paralyzes us. We have to learn from our mistakes and move on quickly. Otherwise we will be pulled into that quicksand

  17. Self-doubt, like fear, is just an illusion. It is no help but only hinders us to do great things. Everybody is grateful for your tips.

  18. I’m quite a confident person naturally and rarely struggle like I know some of my close friends and family do. I do however occasionally have self-doubt issues and I genuinely found some of your pointers here really helpful. thank you.

  19. these are all so so spot on! sitting and wallowing is the absolute worst thing – moving and just going outside to get a wee bit of sunshine does wonders for me!

  20. I loved your tips! I use all of them, but there are a few of them. I love writing to myself and saying what is bothering me and I practice to be grateful when I’m feeling bad. That’s the one that helps me the most.

    Can’t wait for another post!

  21. The funny thing about this is that these are so incredibly easy but we often forget them too easily! Lol. Thank you for this reminder!

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