I asked sometime this week in my FB, IG, and Twitter if you were talking smack about yourself and the amount of activity around this question astounded me. The suggestion to deal with “self-smack-talk” was to simply: STOP IT!!! However…..
It is not an easy thing to do… In the last post since we talked about what needs to be done for us to practice positivity with ourselves, it was only natural for us to start working on self-charity and self-love.
Let’s get right into the meat of things. What do you do to START edifying yourself? You AFFIRM yourself. Affirm, per Merriam-Webster, means “to say that something is true in a confident way, to show a strong belief in or dedication to.”
To get you started, here are 5 simple steps to writing and saying affirmations. At the end, you will get some examples of what affirmations would look like to help you craft your own. I actually have started doing this and it is helping me tremendously!
- They have to be simple and to the point. Usually one sentence at a time.
- Write your sentences as facts, not what you want: “I am enough today”, “I am perfect the way I was made”, “I have what I need to enjoy my day.”
- No negatives! Refrain fro writing about what you do not want/need. For example, the following is not appropriate: “I do not want to get mad at this person again!”
- It all happens NOW. Write the words as if they were in the present: the experience is happening right now for you:“I am calm and collected.”
- Write with your heart and guts. It’s easy to just write: “I am a millionaire.” Nothing wrong with that if you are writing from a place of passion burning inside of you. It should all come with roaring fire within your soul.
- Those affirmations are for YOU, not others. They are to encourage you to keep moving forward. Affirmations are great guides/maps for YOU.
- Take your time. Do not rush into them. Affirmations work best when they are well thought out and come from within!
- You can write a few, and you can write a lot. This depends on where you are in life at the time. I like to use few because I can keep better focus when it’s a bit at a time.
- No rules for when or how to say them. There are some of them I create for just the day and I repeat them often. Some others are fixtures and are more permanent.
- Keep up with it. Don’t give up because the more you say them, the more you are put into the “Zone”, believe them, and things start happening!
I thought those below would be helpful to get you started:
- I am enough.
- I make positive choices for my life today.
- I am perfect as I am and I am always improving.
- I can receive feedback and make positive changes.
- Today, I am proud of who I am.
- I am focused.
- I can make positive decisions for my life.
- I deserve to be good to myself.
- I have gifts and am able to make positive changes around me.
- I am worthy of love.
- I am worthy of praise.
- I love and approve of myself.
- I matter and what I have to offer matters.
- I bring unique gifts to my world/environment.
- I forgive myself.
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Remember to give yourself some props for the positive you bring into your own life.
I hope this helps you get well on your way to Affirming and believing in yourself!