Belonging… Have you ever struggled with it? You know… belonging to a group of people, to a family, to an association, to a certain social rank, etc… Yes, it is a fundamental need for most humans and we all look for it at one point or another. The question is, do we belong where we WANT to belong? Hah! That’s the million dollar question.
I find this to be a fascinating subject. Some struggle tremendously with belongingness because they do not feel complete if they are not part of something. They struggle when they feel left out. Belonging to a group is somewhat defining for us humans. We are like a puzzle piece that has to fit where we choose.
So as I was exploring this concept, I decided to just observe people and read some on the subject. Goodness! You have no idea how much of a problem it becomes when we try to fit and the puzzle we thought we were part of is not accepting of us. Oh! The agony…
Instead of explaining some elaborate theory I have researched, I thought it more helpful to show you a little part you might have skipped while focusing on your “fitting obsession.” The question becomes: “So what if we do not fit?”
Who here believes in Providence or in the Universe? I believe in God, and the three schools of thought, here at least, will agree that things happen for a reason.
Have you thought about the fact that there are other places you are wanted and needed? Places (notice the “s” in Places) where you FIT?
New concept, I know… At times, it is difficult to deal with the feeling of rejection: It is hard to conceptualize that we are not part of what we so clearly envisioned being a valuable member of. I get it… But let’s explore a paradigm shift. What if there are places longing for your presence, for your input, for your consideration, for YOU? Hmmmm….. Changes everything, huh!?!
How do we get to our Promised Land? Through re-evaluation, and prioritizing. After all, it might only be a question of timing.
1- Take inventory of yourself and look at the situation with a candid eye. That can altogether empower you to make the right decisions and follow the natural progression of things. When you understand your worth, you can use this to be a blessing. Remember that you are in control of how you feel and why.
2- Check your list: who and what goes at the top? Ask yourself questions about why you think they deserve to hold a position of privilege. Is your ego in the way (be honest)? Who you decide to make a priority is critical, choose wisely.
I have to tell you, although it can be a difficult/lengthy process, there is nothing like overcoming the feeling of rejection. When you are able to release the sinking emotions, you are then able to make sound choices and commit to cultivating the areas that matter. Victory!
So, what have you learned from this quick read? Please share with others, but most importantly:
Keep the Faith!