Can’t tear me down, haters!
So this issue is tugging at my heart once more and I cannot help but to share it with you. It’s one that can seriously stir up your insides…
You remember I published the post on Belonging a while ago, right? Well, here again it comes to shake my soul. There is something to be said about people who are always trying to tear others down.
If you guessed that something happened to get me rattled up, you are right. I just cannot wrap my head around how some individuals have such an issue with superiority that they blindly, unequivocally HAVE to tear another person down to feel like they are above.
Unbelievable! Yes, infuriating to say the least! If you let it…
It’s almost comical to see to what length people will go to to have a mirage of superiority. How low should someone feel about oneself to turn to utter disrespect of others? All that for a little bit of power…
Of course you know I had to dig a little deeper on the issue. I read up on the subject and found one common denominator with this character flaw: people who try to tear others down are simply unhappy with themselves.
That’s one of the fundamental issues with those individuals. Sad, huh?
As James Clear says it: “For one reason or another, someone will find a reason to project their insecurities, their negativity, and their fears onto you and your life, and you’ll have to deal with it.”
That is a good one! I like it, and deal with it I did. So here are 3 things I did to help me get through that moment where I almost lost my salvation:
- Stop. Do they count?
Is the person dishing out the criticism someone who really counts? Does the person’s opinion matter? I have found that usually, the person trying to make a point that he/she is superior to me not at all important and holds very little value in my life. They can kill themselves talking “down” to you, but since you already have taken the higher road and are “above it”, they look quite ridiculous speaking to nothingness…
- Assess. Is it true?
When someone says something that hurts, it is good practice to find out if the person might be speaking the truth and coming from a place of support for you. Sometimes, the truth hurts and we can benefit from doing some introspection. The delivery and the delivery-person might not be what you would like, however the package might be of value.
- Who are you?
Listen, no matter what people say, you know who you are. Or do you? Hmmm… I found that knowing who you really are inside helps not allow others to chip at you when they slander. It is important for you to stay built up and not let lies or diffamation take away from you. So knowing YOU is quite a weapon against haters. Try it, it ricochets to their demise! (heeheehee)
At the end of the day, with the grace of God, since I did not waste my energy on responding to the insignificant person who tried to offend me, I was quite happy with the fact that I was able to stop, assess, and NOT act. Yes, it did bother me for a little while, but since we are all humans and have feelings, I thought practicing those points together can help us build a better US to be of great influence to people around us, right?
Faith pulls me through. You?