Fueling Love – The Romance Dinner
It has been a little while since I have touched upon love and relationships. So today I want to share an experience with you that is close to my heart. Yes! You guessed it: we just did another one of those Romance Dinners!
In case you are new to MeUnfinished, you are not too sure about what this means, right? One of the things I am very involved in, is a marriage ministry; and my husband and I have been meeting with our group for the past four years. You can see why I consider this group family. We promote marriage and love by serving others and each other. The Romance Dinner is one way to pass along the love.
We get together and transform one of the homes in which we meet, and create an atmosphere of pure romance. Oh, yes! We go all the way from soft music and candles, to rose petals at the entrance. The most important part of all is that we help couples focus on themselves and their love by promoting conversation. Very quickly, our couples become oblivious to the rest of the world and appear to be slowly embodying the phrase: “and the two shall become one flesh.”
Now, I don’t want to spoil it for anybody who would be attending one of those dinners, so I have to hold my cards close to the chest (so to speak); but the message is clear: it takes work to stay in LOVE. No illusions!
With divorce rates so high, one must wonder about some of the reasons why this happens. I submit to you that the lack of spending time to nurture the relationship is one of the biggest culprits. Yes, we hear about money and adultery more than other causes, but I am not sure that those would be such heavy issues if couples spent time together enough to work on the relationship on an ongoing basis. Just sayin’…..
During the dinner, with the light of the flickering candles gently caressing their faces, I can see them glow as they look into each other’s eyes. We manage to take a couple of pictures to help them remember this moment, but most of the time, they are so intensely pouring into one another that they barely notice our presence. That’s the kind of attention we are to give each other from time to time to keep the flame burning. Forget burning, we need this thing ROARING!!!
When they touch, it’s almost like an electric current goes from one to the other and the whole room becomes charged with this presence: Love. I tell you, it’s almost palpable… After talking for a while, and completing their dinner, they do what I call the “polite talk” where they hang around for a few minutes and express their gratitude. Oh! Don’t get me wrong, they want to, it’s just that we see in their eyes and demeanor that they cannot wait to get out of there to continue the evening! LOL! They do some type of “gotta-go dance” like, “Oh! We are really happy, and thank you, but we really have to go home!” as they inch their way to the door.
You know, from it all, I believe that our team is most happy to be servers because of what comes out of it: couples reconnect and are reminded of what had started the sparks. This in turn puts fuel into our own relationships too! We can totally vouch for the saying that giving is a gift in itself. When it is all done and we are half dead from the event and cleaning up, each of us finds our own spouse to cuddle with as we gradually decompress. We soon start doing the “going home now” dance ourselves because we feel renewed too. By the time we get home, I look into my honey’s eyes and I see the most amazing being God blessed me with; and I think: “Indeed, God knew what He was doing when He blessed me with my husband!” The magic spills onto us too!
Falling in love is an action. It needs to be continuous and requires effort. The misconception is that in happens once when in fact it is a choice you make each and every day. I understand that life can sometimes bring some nasty bumps in the road, and that not everybody is in a relationship at this time, however, when and if you get there, remember to celebrate your love often. How often? Well, one way I like to think of it is that we need to put gas in our cars for them to run and be of use in our lives; it’s the same for love: we have to continue to fill up our Love Tank for it not to run dry. The price is not as high as some of those pumping stations out there!
Yeah, I can already feel you doing the “gotta go dance” from your seat (wink!)… Run!
I am thankful for my marriage group (you know who your are) and my hubby for being Faithful to this call with me.
Keep your Faith in Love, people!