Sexy women: do they have to be Flawless?

Sexy Women Flawless?

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I am still on a high: Woman is such a life-giving subject – Especially the Sexy Women concept!  As I am flipping through magazines, reading books, and listening to songs about Women and their sexy-complicated ways, I am finding much empowerment and validation.  BUT…  (you knew that was coming, right?)

Yes, BUT…  I am also stumbling upon some very disturbing and downright revolting pieces as well.  I mean, I used to hear about how the beauty industry portrays unrealistic views of women.  That is not news.  The news for me is how I find this crap EVERYWHERE: flawlessness!  

Maybe I am a bit more sensitive to it all since I have been researching about the subject.  I qiuckly have to give the disclaimer that those are my own thoughts on this.

So the part that is clashing with my soul is that word: Flawless.  What the heck is Flawless???

I hear that term everywhere and it is driving me up the wall!  I am not sure how to start tackling this concept …  Since when was Sexy flawless?  

All those commercials about being flawless seem to be about how we are not made perfectly, so we have to use things to make our skin glow, have no blemish, change color, look darker, look lighter, etc…

I can’t keep up with this crap!  So the long-standing question continues to be asked: Who defines sexy?  Why does is seem that Women have to be flawless to be sexy?  What the heck is a “flawless” woman?

Looking at Ashley Graham and Marilyn Monroe, I see beauty.  When I read Lady Gaga’s response to critics about her body after her amazing super bowl performance, and Demi Lovato proudly posting her “non-thigh-gap’ on Instagram, it validates my point of view.  

Sexy Women come in all shapes and forms.  What could be defined as flaws in one woman, could be pure goddess to the other.  

Sexy women are defined in so many ways and from one country to another, from one culture to the other, the definitions vary greatly.   I am talking only about looks here.  We all know that what is inside is way more important.  Whether you decide to play with your features is our own decision and should be fun and exciting.  I have nothing against makeup and stuff.

So why put women in a box?  Why bother having standards at all?  Flawless… Hmph!

What I found to be the most flabbergasting is that Women, yes our very own kind, contribute enormously to this concept of flawlessness.  We really put some serious effort in appearing “perfect”.  From wearing makeup to going through surgical procedures, we are the ones being the hardest on ourselves and seem to be competing with each other.

This becomes self-imposed pressure…

In talking to and also researching the subject, I found that they usually like a woman who takes pride in her appearance.  The majority of them is not quite looking for a “flawless” sexy woman.  They seem to have a whole different outlook on how to define sexy altogether.

There seems to be more competition among our own…  

I believe that EVERY WOMAN has a SEXY WOMAN within her.  You have to feel it in your bones.  You were born with it.  It belongs to you to be sexy whether you know it or not, whether you use it or not.  You can command a room just by stepping in it!  Each of us is different and each of us was born with this capacity to conjure Sexy at any given time and score big (hehe).  Some of those very “flaws” can be our best assets (wink)!

What are you waiting for?  Bring it out!  Sexiness is an attitude, not the surface of what you look like.  The faint of heart cannot handle the real sexiness of the woman.  So women, choose wisely who is worthy of “All That!”  Sexy goes beyond the skin: it’s a way of being.

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50 Responses to “Sexy women: do they have to be Flawless?”

  1. Great post! We DO perpetuate this whole issue. To me NO one is flawless and the day we become so we will be some kind of cyborg type women – not even human!

  2. The sexiest women are the ones who embrace their flaws! NO ONE, mane or woman, is perfect, but the media perpetuates that myth.

  3. I have always hated this stereotype put forth in media that women have to be flawless. There’s NO SUCH THING!

  4. Claudia Krusch Reply May 1, 2017 at 6:37 pm

    It is so important for people to realize that no one is flawless. I think it can be the little flaws we have that make us unique.

  5. No one is really flawless though, right? I mean, we are all beautiful in different ways—and I love that!

  6. It is all about confidence. However, even the most confident women is ugly if she is a mean person. So I guess it is all about kindness.

    • There are several values that make up sexiness in a woman. The two you mentioned here are part of a package that includes several other positive attributes 🙂 Kindness is indeed a key!

  7. I so agree with you. Sexiness is attitude and messiness – it’s the whole package. No one is flawless!

    • 🙂 🙂 Thank you, Tamara! I really like you entered “messiness” into the mix! That shows that there are several retouches throughout life and we have to work at improve ourselves. That in itself can be messy, but that is the beauty of it all!

  8. I definitely agree with you. It’s all about attitude and how you see yourself.

  9. I totally agree with Stacie. No one is actually flawless. Accepting and embracing your flaws is what makes a person sexy.

  10. I am so with you, no one is flawless and accepting your flaws is part of becoming the sexy person you are.

  11. As a dad of an eight year old sexiness is the last thing I want on her mind or any of the kids she hangs around 😉 No one is perfect that is for sure and as a parent I hope she understands self-confidence and compassion towards others is more important than physical appearances.

    • I love it, Tim! This IS what she should be preoccupied with, and those are values that are far more important than anything else. As she masters those and becomes a woman, those very values will be appealing in several areas of her life: that ‘s what I was going for 🙂

  12. I think sometimes feeling sexy directly is affected by how you look on the outside. I feel better when I look better,sometimes it is all about what I am doing.

  13. I think this is a really good post. I don’t think anyone needs to be flawless. There are so much more things to being a sexy person.

  14. Michelle Waller Reply May 2, 2017 at 1:18 pm

    I just love this post! Everyone has flaws, but that is what makes us Sexy!

  15. I think the media puts high profile people on some sort of pedestal and tries to hide their flaws. Flaws are beautiful and all women should embrace them.

  16. This is great!!! Way to empower yourself and take us all with you!

  17. This is an amazing post. I often find that the women with the most flaws, who don’t think they are sexy, are the sexiest ones of all.

  18. Nobody is flawless I believe that! Feeling sexy is just a matter of appreciating your own beauty and body.

  19. It really is important to embrace your flaws. But I don’t mind putting on makeup once in a while to make me feel more confident 🙂

  20. Victoria Heckstall Reply May 2, 2017 at 11:45 pm

    Sexy is a state of mind. That is the number one rule you must always remember when trying to raise your sex appeal. If you don’t view yourself as sexy well how can you expect anyone else to.

  21. I strongly believe that sexy is a state of mind. It has nothing to do with your physical flaws. This is a great post.

  22. I know that the definition of sexy varies from person to person, but I believe the true meaning of sexy doesn’t have anything to do with one’s looks. It’s all about confidence!

  23. I agree with you! I hate the word flawless . Women never consider themselves flawless, they always find little things about themselves that they hate. We should feel sexy and awesome no matter what!

  24. Each and everyone of us has our own flaws. And I totally agree that sexy goes beyond the skin – just like beauty is skin deep.

  25. I hate the perception that you have to look a certain way to be sexy. I totally agree with you, sexiness is an attitude.

  26. no – who wants to date a mannequin or a carbon copy? Our differences are what define us.

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