The Baggage. Who helps you unpack?
There was lots on my mind and it all woke me up from my sleep. If you remember, I sometimes have to deal with a very unwanted guest in my life called “anxiety“. Oh! How this makes me mad! When I am having a perfectly good bout of sleep and my mind wakes up before I do!!!!
That day, when I went for my massage, I met a pretty cool lady who dropped a word in my heart that I could not bear to keep to myself.
She spoke to the negative self-talk and the “what ifs” that were slowly rising from the inner corners of my mind. Oh! No! “Not again!” I thought… So I practiced my breathing, said some affirmations, and also prayed.
I felt better, but then asked that a “WORD” would be sent my way to keep me uplifted. That’s where my lady friend comes in.
Oh! We were having a grand ole’ time talking about life and how sometimes we allow our minds to wander where it should not and for worry to take over our sanity.
I made the comment: “Oh! You know… We all have baggage we carry into our relationships…”
She completed with: “… And it takes the right people to help us unpack…”
BOOMSHAKALAKA!!!!!!!!!!!!! That hit me like a ton of bricks!
Let’s “unpack” this for a minute (no real pun intended, but I could not resist.)
“The right people…” Isn’t this loaded right there? Gosh! When she said that, all the horrible thoughts were all of a sudden dissipated… It takes the “right people to help us unpack”. REVELATION!
As I pondered this statement, I realized (and I could be wrong, but it works so good for me!) that if you are allowing the wrong people into your life, you might actually pack on more crap! And then we wonder why we have such negative self-talk! Hah!
It starts with learning how to choose the “right” people. We come with a set of baggage and as we mature we are to learn how to choose the individuals who edify, help, love, support us; and who also tell us like it is to help us grow.
Underneath all this is where our gifts lie.
The right people are there to make sure, one layer after another, we are rid of the fluff until the real meaty stuff comes out: our purposes, our gifts, our talents. And with hurt, the layers keep getting thicker and harder just like a piece of plaster that is wet and pliable at first that sets and gets hard with exposure to air and time…
Some even think they can unpack themselves… Not too sure how that works out though…
My lady friend was on point and I was afforded a powerful tool to deal with the negative thoughts. It is like a chain reaction from one positive thought to the other when you start thinking about how rich your life is because of the right people around you!
By the time I was done with that conversation, I felt like a brand new person! Talk about an answer to my prayer! I have been on a high since then.
Remember, you are worth it, and the “unpackers” know and appreciate you. They are interested in helping you shine. You might also find yourself being a mighty “unpacker” too!
So, my friends, I leave you with this thought: are you carefully choosing the people you allow in your life? You now have this tool to assess the ones you have now: are they helping you unpack or are they packing more onto you?
I want to hear from you! How do you recognize the Unpackers in your life? Do you have to make some changes in your relationships?
Mmmm…. Faith speaks loud here!