I am Tired!
Yes, I am tired. I am TIRED! How many out there can feel me on this?!?!?!
You know who you are, the many of us out there hustling in life doing our best, but are still falling short. We are trying to make things happen for ourselves and the ones we love, but for some reason, we cannot stay on the track because other things tug at and derail us. ARGHR! I cannot even find a curse word to express this feeling! Just that it is the most unnerving, angry, overwhelmed, TIRED feeling ever.
Going, going, going as if our head is cut off… The end is not in sight and we have to care for it all: family, work, etc… Without trying to hurt anybody’s feelings, we try to politely decline invitations, screen calls, etc., but it is not because we do not want to communicate or participate; it is mostly because we do not have the time or we are just simply TIRED…
I am trying to convey to the feelings, not to bash others: VERY important difference, here.
We are running all the time and barely have a few seconds to use the restrooms. I found myself squirming the other day on my chair and delaying the restroom visit to be able to finish something I was working on. Oh! Goodness forbid, I would get up for a few minutes! No Way! That would take time that I do not have, that would make me lose my mojo, that would cause me to let go of the few thoughts I am already barely able to hold on to…
The brain keeps going and does not shut down: I have to do better, I am not “there” wherever this cursed “there” is… This never-ending chase after some stability is causing some of us to lose our energy. I am TIRED…
We have to fit into one day all the things we have to accomplish and there are the occasional wants we do not always get to enjoy. When we actually take a few minutes to recharge, or get out of life’s circulation to sleep that extra hour or go for a short afternoon walk/trip, magically, duties multiply as if they were left in a breeding ground.
Some of us have to deal with people they do not mix with, whether personally or at work. Some others have to deal with work they do not enjoy, some of us like work, but do not have the time to do it or are bothered by pests, some of us have kids who never stop calling our non-given name: “Mom”, others are trying to manage the streets as they have overbooked the kids’ activities on top of working full time and organize the home… Yes! We are TIRED!
OK, of course that does not mean that some of us do not have any help. I have to give some props to the men or other loved ones in our lives who do help. We tend to think about how to manage our lives differently men and women, and that causes us to go onto override and explode.
Somehow, we women tend to want to see things a bit more organized and care about different things than our mates’ do. We take some things personally and to heart, and we wear our feelings on our sleeves. Our hearts and brains are wired differently.
I read a book once that compared our brains to appear like a bowl of spaghetti, where each strand is connected with the other and all is collectively affecting one another. Yes, Everything has to make sense! Everything is connected! The flip side of this is that men’s brains were compared to a waffle where they think in compartments that are isolated from one another. One thing does not affect the other. Big sigh!
I am not trying to say that we are to have different brains. But I am trying to figure out ways we can use this connected mass of synapses more efficiently to capitalize on its strengths instead of just getting a beating from its disorganization. This beast can be tamed.
So at the end of the day, we are still tired. Yes TIRED… which leads me to think that there is a fundamental question to ask our tired selves: how many of those “tired-causing” things, wires, spaghetti strands should we take out of our lives? Is it ultimately because we have too much on our plates and are trying to work this balancing act in spite of our ever-changing times?
Is anyone out there tired? If you are, what can we do to make things better? What external expectations can we exterminate from our lives to streamline it and make it more efficient and more enjoyable? I am not talking about having a perfect life, ladies; I am talking about a more manageable life.
Can we rally together to form a support for each other? I encourage and challenge you to form a support team(friends, co-workers, cousins, sisters, etc.) and start working on ways to decrease the stresses and the reasons for this TIRED epidemic. Who’s with me?!?!?!? Show me some love and share that love with other fellow readers by leaving comments below. Don’t disappoint and revive the Faith!