To Love or to use: Are you emotionally needy?
This concept is a little controversial and it took the better part of my first 33 years of life to get on the “awakening continuum”. Some people get it early, but others take, well, forever to grasp the idea.
If you are looking for a mushy-mushy type of sappy post series, this is not the one for you. We are unpacking real and raw emotions, and some of it may be a bit tough to digest.
To all the ones who are sensitive and easily offended, I do not apologize, but simply ask you to keep an open mind and keep reading and sharing (you might not remain so sensitive after this series…)
Here we go.
Are you a Love giver or a user? Men, women, it is about time we realize we are born with everything we need to be sufficient to ourselves. Another person cannot be made responsible for your own happiness. Of course there are always circumstances in which it is more difficult than not to make your own inner-self content; but I am talking about the people who think that someone other than themselves is be the cure to the hole in their heart.
Here’s the message: Stop, and take the time to consider this.
When one is emotionally needy, it looks like the glass they are taking big gulps from will never be full enough for them to be quenched?
Do you realize that being emotionally dependent on another person automatically makes them unable to ADD to your life as designed for a relationship? It’s like sucking the gas out of a running car or demanding shelter to a homeless person.
Do you get my point? Unfortunately, the person you want to love you is not able to do the job right because they are unable to unite their light to yours. They are too busy trying to BE your light and theirs at the same time.
I know, I know. It is a bit tough, right? I wish it were less harsh, but the reality is that when you are a “Love user”, you pull the life right out of the very person you love. The relationship starts to quickly fade and, just like a plant denied water for a long time, it withers and gradually dies.
Wow! That was a post-full! I have to break this down into a series in order to get this message across in digestible installments; so stay plugged in as we gradually unpack this whole Self-Love journey.
Remember that we all come with baggage. We all have holes in our lives, but we all have to take responsibility to work on them and get complete with ourselves. I know you can do it and we will be talking about tools we can use to gird ourselves with the best tools and know how to use them.
People, what this is, in reality, is my sharing the journey I have been on on a deeper level. I want to take as many people with me as I possibly can because Self-Love is a beautiful thing once you understand that it is a gift that not only keeps giving to you, but to others around you in abundance!
Are you with me? We will keep being real, but not unpleasant. We will be truthful and shun sensationalism. When we meet on the other side of this series, we will both emerge better people.
Would you keep that Faith with me? It makes the work much less painless 🙂